{"id":4595,"date":"2024-05-08T16:56:20","date_gmt":"2024-05-08T14:56:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/?p=4595"},"modified":"2024-05-08T21:50:26","modified_gmt":"2024-05-08T19:50:26","slug":"generosite-conditionnelle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/generosite-conditionnelle\/","title":{"rendered":"G\u00c9N\u00c9ROSIT\u00c9 conditionnelle"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" src=\"https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-1024x768.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4611\" srcset=\"https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-1024x768.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-1536x1151.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-2048x1535.jpeg 2048w, https:\/\/aequus.fr\/journaldebord\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_2782-scaled.jpeg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Chronique de la bienveillance chez le bip\u00e8de:<br>Dans le vaste royaume des bip\u00e8des, il existe une vari\u00e9t\u00e9 dite \u00ab\u00a0opportuniste\u00a0\u00bb, pour laquelle une \u00e9trange coutume pr\u00e9vaut : la bienveillance conditionnelle&#8230; <br>Ces cr\u00e9atures ressemblent \u00e0 s\u2019y m\u00e9prendre \u00e0 de belles personnes : or la g\u00e9n\u00e9rosit\u00e9 est d\u00e9sormais une application que l&rsquo;on t\u00e9l\u00e9charge, voire un service payant.. et d\u00e9sormais, pour certains individus, elle se monnaye ! <br>Les sp\u00e9cimens que l\u2019on nommera les \u00ab\u00a0profiteurs cam\u00e9l\u00e9ons\u00a0\u00bb en sont les plus grands sp\u00e9cialistes: ils se d\u00e9finissent volontiers comme des professionnels de la fili\u00e8re \u00e9quine et vous \u00aboffrent\u00bb contre r\u00e9mun\u00e9ration, leur <em>bienveillance \u00e0 dur\u00e9e limit\u00e9e<\/em> lors d\u2019une consultation fumeuse de pseudo sp\u00e9cialiste en bienveillance ou tout simplement une application pour mobile.<br>Ah pour \u00e7a, ils sont toujours pr\u00eats \u00e0 vous tendre la main, mais pour recevoir ! <br>En revanche lorsqu\u2019il s\u2019agit pour eux de donner, le concept leur est inconnu et ils se transforment en ma\u00eetres de l\u2019\u00e9vasion.<br>Les arguments tels que: \u00ab\u00a0Je suis d\u00e9bord\u00e9 en ce moment, j\u2019ai travaill\u00e9 dur toute la journ\u00e9e, j\u2019ai bien pens\u00e9 \u00e0 te rendre ce service\u2026 mais j\u2019ai oubli\u00e9, et je suis reparti\u2026\u00a0\u00bb, ces douces paroles sont prononc\u00e9es sans vous regarder et avec un sourire de ravi de la cr\u00e8che aussi large que leur capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 dispara\u00eetre quand on a besoin d\u2019eux. \u00c7a les rend tellement sympathiques qu\u2019on a envie en retour de leur donner un coup de main ( \u2026ou un coup de sabot quand on est un cheval ! )<br>Une sorte de m\u00e9lange de <em>prestidigitateur<strong> <\/strong>social<\/em> ou d\u2019<em>acrobate \u00e9motionne<\/em>l est n\u00e9, avec le d\u00e9veloppement des r\u00e9seaux sociaux.<br>C\u2019est un peu surprenant au d\u00e9but, car on pense que la r\u00e9ciprocit\u00e9 dans les services rendus existe, mais il n\u2019en est rien. Vous vous ferez pi\u00e9ger une fois, parfois deux\u2026 puis de guerre lasse, vous changerez de trottoir quand vous croiserez des individus qui vous auront utilis\u00e9s et \u00e9conduits \u00e0 la premi\u00e8re occasion; Alors la question, c\u2019est, comment vous prot\u00e9ger de ces charmeurs assist\u00e9s surrepr\u00e9sent\u00e9s dans certains lieux accueillant un public cavalier?<br>Rien de plus simple: Je mets en partage sp\u00e9cialement pour vous, mes amis, mes astuces personnelles, et la premi\u00e8re est <strong>le test du miroir<\/strong>:<br>Face \u00e0 un individu qui vous a d\u00e9j\u00e0 \u00e9chaud\u00e9 ou dont vous doutez de la g\u00e9n\u00e9rosit\u00e9, demandez lui un service bien avant qu\u2019il ne vous en demande un; Si vous voyez son sourire se figer ou s\u2019il vous \u00e9conduit, c\u2019est que vous avez affaire \u00e0 un \u00ab\u00a0profiteur cam\u00e9l\u00e9on\u00a0\u00bb dans toute sa beaut\u00e9. Fuyez.<br>Plus subtile, celle qui a ma pr\u00e9f\u00e9rence est <strong>la technique du \u00ab\u00a0non, mais\u00a0\u00bb<\/strong> qui se pratique avec un peu d\u2019humour anglais absurde ou d\u00e9cal\u00e9:<br>Lorsque l\u2019importun vient vous demander de l\u2019aide, vous r\u00e9pondez par un \u00ab\u00a0non, mais\u2026\u00a0\u00bb suivi d\u2019une excuse encore plus absurde que la sienne, par exemple:<br>&#8211; J\u2019aurais beaucoup aim\u00e9 t\u2019aider mais tu vois, l\u00e0, j\u2019ai promis \u00e0 Nessie et Puff, mes poissons rouges, de leur donner un cours de natation synchronis\u00e9e.<br>En conclusion, dans ce petit th\u00e9\u00e2tre de la g\u00e9n\u00e9rosit\u00e9 conditionnelle, le plus important est de conserver votre sens de l\u2019humour, tout en choisissant vos batailles: apr\u00e8s tout, on ne peut pas tous \u00eatre des saints ou des bip\u00e8des 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